A Dad’s speech at his Daughter’s wedding
This is one of the speeches that is close to my heart. And all fathers who have daughters will understand the feeling of every single word. I wished to read this today after a long time and remembered how precious are the girls to their fathers. When a girl enters into a family, she enters with lot of fears and anxiety. Try to handle her with love, care and affection. Don’t be a male chauvinistic person. I dedicate this to my father who treated me as his princess till I got married and my husband who treats me as his queen… He protects me when someone else yell at me and supports me when I am right. I also tell to all the people who shouts for no reason, if your hand is up now, there comes a time when a girls hand rises. And you will reap for what you have done. So think before you do something and respect her. Respect her and in turn you ll get respect. My husband happily makes coffee when I feel tired and helps me in my household work if I am sick. I wish all the husbands to treat their wives with care. When you expect a girl to accept a man if he doesn’t know to ride a vehicle or abstain himself from doing his duties, you also please accept when he does household work. Don’t draw a margin and say it’s a girls duty. And never ever have an idea that household work is meant for the ladies. Come out of the age old stupid ideas like not allowing he youngsters to sit on single sofa. Respect women and try to be more practical rather than a formal, strict officer. If you respect a woman, you will be worshipped as a God… And all men who have a daughter are blessed and knows the pain of a life than a boy’s dad.
I thought I would start my speech by addressing you as the “new” family of my daughter. But I think it would be inappropriate because now that she is married, you are “the family” for her. Believe me; I don’t have a problem with that. I, in fact, want my daughter to have “you” as her priority now. Its time for us to take a backseat in her life. We would happily accept it but would surely request one thing- please keep her happy!
I am more than sure that you will keep her very happy. She will perhaps be happier than what she used to be here. But like all fathers, I obsess over my daughter’s happiness which is making me say this over and over again- please keep her happy!
She never was and will never be a burden for me. She is in fact the reason why I breathe and smile. I am getting her married because this is what the law of nature demands. I am helpless in the face of our culture and therefore sending her to your home. She was the happiness of my home and will now light up your home. I am giving my world to you. Please make sure it remains beautiful. I am giving away my princess to you. Please make sure she stays as a queen. I have raised her with my sweat and blood and now she is wonderfully perfect. For all the care, love, beauty and warmth my daughter will bring into your lives, I just want her happiness in return—please keep her happy!
If at times you think that my daughter has said or done something wrong, feel free to scold her. But handle her with love. She is very fragile. If at times she feels low, be with her. She just needs a little bit of your attention. If at times she feels sick, show her some care. It’s the medicine that works best for her. If at times she fails to fulfill a responsibility, feel free to chastise her. But empathize with her. She is still learning. Do understand her—please keep her happy!
I don’t mind if I don’t get to see her for months. I don’t mind if I am not able to talk to her on a daily basis. I would be more than happy if she doesn’t remember me much. But, my only motive in life has been my daughter’s happiness which is now in your hands. I beg you, please keep her happy.
Dear son-in-law, these words may not mean much to you now but if you are lucky enough to father a daughter someday, you will appreciate them better when you will find every beat of your heart shouting – “please keep her happy”!
— Dedicated to all fathers
Thank you Megala